“This is not what I signed up for” I silently repeatedly. Maybe when looking at the self inflicted cuts on my daughters arms. Possibly when another twenty quid disappeared from my purse or listening to more lies. Definitely scrabbling on all fours filling five bin liners with furry food, soiled underwear, dead vodka bottles and […]
SANDY & TIM start in life
Compare and contrast these two babies. SANDY (Securely Attached Normally Developed Youngster) all needs met regularly. TIM (Traumatised Infant Maltreated) neglected, ignored, hurt. This is the draft cartoon of the opening to my next book; “So you want(ed) to adopt. Ponder their probable life path. Ponder the sort of parenting Tim will need in adoptive […]
Mothers Day and Expectations. Hope for the best. Plan for the worst.
Last sunday I cooked my own meals, bought myself some flowers and uncharacteristically drank an entire bottle of wine and had a good cry. Why? Because yet again, on Mothers Day, I received nothing from the three children I adopted 25 years ago. We’ve had minimal contact for the last seven or eight years. By […]