Today’s Daily Mirror featured a sibling group of four looking for one set of adoptive parents. I’ve read the article with increasing anger. The children had a chaotic background, but had settled in well ….. blah, blah. Unlike prospective adopters; I and other adults experienced in parenting traumatised children could read between the lines. These […]
The boy who killed and mother who tried to stop him
I hate being right. The article in todays Guardian documents the massive steps a mother took to get help for her son. It was constantly refused (below the threshold). She pleaded. He killed. Two families and a network of friends shattered. Society incarcerates, while judging the behaviour disregarding the root cause. This is what happens […]
“Adoption is no longer fit for purpose”. Someone has to say it.
“Adoption is no longer fit for purpose”. Those are the sentiments expressed recently by many adopters and a few enlighten professionals. I’m independent, so I can voice it publicly. Many others can not. The capping of the Adoption Support Fund at £5000 was the tipping point. Its introduction was much heralded and deeply appreciated in […]
How to Futureproof adoptive families from Facebook contact
Yesterday I read a blog from yet another adoptive parent who’s adopted son is reconnecting with his birth parents. (Befuddled mum) It’s a scenario I have witnessed many times in the last eight years; watching hundreds of adoptive families grieve as their teenage rejected them and returned emotionally and/or physically to their birth family. Sometimes […]
“Forced adoption” on Facebook in court
Perspective! This article highlights the complexity of issues when an infant is removed by the courts against the birth parents wishes. When such parents often feel they “own” their child they can’t see the bigger picture or childs perspective. “Forced adoption” is a big issue on social media with many grieving birth parents desperately […]