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What did you expect? Joy, satisfaction or sadness?

February 25, 2019 by Helen Oakwater Leave a Comment

“This is not what I signed up for” I silently repeatedly.  Maybe when looking at the self inflicted cuts on my daughters arms. Possibly when another twenty quid disappeared from my purse or listening to more lies. Definitely scrabbling on all fours filling five bin liners with furry food, soiled underwear, dead vodka bottles and […]

Filed Under: adoption, blog, future-proofing, mother, trauma, Uncategorized

What did you expect? Joy, satisfaction or sadness?

December 1, 2018 by Helen Oakwater Leave a Comment

“This is not what I signed up for” I silently repeatedly.  Maybe when looking at the self inflicted cuts on my daughters arms. Possibly when another twenty quid disappeared from my purse or listening to more lies. Definitely scrabbling on all fours filling five bin liners with furry food, soiled underwear, dead vodka bottles and […]

Filed Under: Uncategorized Tagged With: adoption, ASF, oakwater, trauma

Beliefs drive Behaviour. Hear why on Facebook Live soon.

May 13, 2018 by Helen Oakwater Leave a Comment

Ever wonder why adopted and foster children behave in apparently nonsensical ways? Why do they self sabotage? Why do kind or constructive words fail to impact their behaviour? It’s because beliefs drive behaviour. That concept rocked my world back in February 2002 on the morning of my first NLP course. It explained so much about […]

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Mothers Day and Expectations. Hope for the best. Plan for the worst.

March 13, 2018 by Helen Oakwater 1 Comment

Last sunday I cooked my own meals, bought myself some flowers and uncharacteristically drank an entire bottle of wine and had a good cry. Why?  Because yet again, on Mothers Day, I received nothing from the three children I adopted 25 years ago. We’ve had minimal contact for the last seven or eight years. By […]

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The boy who killed and mother who tried to stop him

September 19, 2017 by Helen Oakwater Leave a Comment

I hate being right.  The article in todays Guardian documents the massive steps a mother took to get help for her son. It was constantly refused (below the threshold). She pleaded. He killed. Two families and a network of friends shattered. Society incarcerates, while judging the behaviour disregarding the root cause. This is what happens […]

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How to Futureproof adoptive families from Facebook contact

February 6, 2017 by Helen Oakwater Leave a Comment

Yesterday I read a blog from yet another adoptive parent who’s adopted son is reconnecting with his birth parents. (Befuddled mum) It’s a scenario I have witnessed many times in the last eight years; watching hundreds of adoptive families grieve as their teenage rejected them and returned emotionally and/or physically to their birth family. Sometimes […]

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