“This is not what I signed up for” I silently repeatedly. Maybe when looking at the self inflicted cuts on my daughters arms. Possibly when another twenty quid disappeared from my purse or listening to more lies. Definitely scrabbling on all fours filling five bin liners with furry food, soiled underwear, dead vodka bottles and […]
What did you expect? Joy, satisfaction or sadness?
“This is not what I signed up for” I silently repeatedly. Maybe when looking at the self inflicted cuts on my daughters arms. Possibly when another twenty quid disappeared from my purse or listening to more lies. Definitely scrabbling on all fours filling five bin liners with furry food, soiled underwear, dead vodka bottles and […]
Beliefs drive Behaviour. Hear why on Facebook Live soon.
Ever wonder why adopted and foster children behave in apparently nonsensical ways? Why do they self sabotage? Why do kind or constructive words fail to impact their behaviour? It’s because beliefs drive behaviour. That concept rocked my world back in February 2002 on the morning of my first NLP course. It explained so much about […]
Mothers Day and Expectations. Hope for the best. Plan for the worst.
Last sunday I cooked my own meals, bought myself some flowers and uncharacteristically drank an entire bottle of wine and had a good cry. Why? Because yet again, on Mothers Day, I received nothing from the three children I adopted 25 years ago. We’ve had minimal contact for the last seven or eight years. By […]
The boy who killed and mother who tried to stop him
I hate being right. The article in todays Guardian documents the massive steps a mother took to get help for her son. It was constantly refused (below the threshold). She pleaded. He killed. Two families and a network of friends shattered. Society incarcerates, while judging the behaviour disregarding the root cause. This is what happens […]
How to Futureproof adoptive families from Facebook contact
Yesterday I read a blog from yet another adoptive parent who’s adopted son is reconnecting with his birth parents. (Befuddled mum) It’s a scenario I have witnessed many times in the last eight years; watching hundreds of adoptive families grieve as their teenage rejected them and returned emotionally and/or physically to their birth family. Sometimes […]